ABOUT THE TEEN PROGRAM
Teen Services Community Outreach Coordinator from Colorado River Regional Crisis Shelter is available year-round for presentations on teen relationship issues. We also provide workshops in the high school and jr. high schools on a variety of related topics, including healthy relationships, communication, power and control, stalking, Teen Dating Violence and of course, all types of abuse.
Training is available to teachers, service providers, parent groups, and anyone who is concerned with the problem of teen abusive relationships.
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What is a Healthy Relationship?
Relationships can range from healthy to abusive, and some relationships may be unhealthy, but not abusive. Here’s a breakdown of the relationship spectrum:
Ask yourself these questions about your relationship:
- Does each partner respect the other's opinions, even when they are different?
- Does each partner share equally in making decisions about how you will spend your time together and about other issues?
- Does each partner encourage the other to have friends and interests outside the relationship?
- Are both partners willing to talk openly and honestly about problems in the relationship, and willing to work together to resolve conflicts?
- Are both partners willing to accept responsibility for their behavior when something hurtful is said or done?
- Does each partner respect the limits and boundaries set by the other?
These are just a few aspects of a healthy relationship: respect, trust, support, communication, and equality. Healthy relationships are a partnership between two people. Most importantly, there is no fear of violence.
The Teen Intervention Program is an in-school or after-school program designed for youth 9-17 years of age who are exhibiting defiant and out-of-control behaviors.
Teen aggression and bullying is a problem that continues to grow, often disrupting our schools, families, workplaces and communities. The causes of teen aggression and bullying vary from person to person and may include such factors as a teen having been exposed to physical or sexual abuse growing up; violent behavior witnessed in the home or neighborhood; violence in the media; socio-economic issues such as family poverty, need deprivation, unstable family environment, lack of family support and appropriate role models, and exposure to weapons. Teen aggression can take many forms including:
|Fighting||Internet-based Bullying||Indirect aggression - gossiping or spreading rumors|
|Gang Violence||Destruction of Property|
|Rape & Molestation||Cruelty to animals||Shooting & Stabbing|
The Teen Intervention Program is designed to help teens engage in self-reflection, examine their thoughts and feelings that lead to feelings of aggression, and learn effective tools and techniques for effectively managing these feelings. This program combines two powerful psychological tools for the management of aggressive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors: self-assessment and journaling.
The Teen Intervention Program Curriculum contains six separate sections that will help the participants learn more about themselves as well as how aggression impacts their lives:
- Violence Motivation Scale - helps individuals explore reasons they may act aggressively or violently toward other people.
- Environmental Aggression Scale - helps individuals identify the extent of their exposure to environmental violence and help them develop strategies to become more resilient.
- Are You Being Bullied? Scale - helps individuals assess whether or not they are being bullied, and if so, to what extent.
- Are You a Bully? Scale - helps individuals identify whether they are aggressive and/ or bully others, and to what extent.
- Bystander Behavior Scale - helps individuals explore how they react and respond in bullying situations.
- Depression and Suicide - helps individuals identify teens who may be at risk for depression and/ or suicide.
The Depression and Suicide eight-page section of the workbook is crucial for today’s young people. No scales are included. A detailed questionnaire, idea-prompting lists, and relevant journal questions are designed to lead to productive in-depth discussions of how problems arise and how they can be solved.
"The act of love is to say: I want you to be who you are."
The act of abuse is to say: "I want you to be who I want you to be."
It is that simple. — James D. Gill
WHAT IS TEEN DATING VIOLENCE?
Teen dating violence is the act or threat of violence by one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within a dating relationship. This includes any form of sexual, physical, and/or verbal or emotional abuse.
It can happen to teens at any age, no matter what race, ethnicity, or religion they are, and no matter their level of education or economic background. Dating violence can also occur in same-sex relationships. Teens and adults are often unaware of how regularly dating violence occurs, so it is important to help people realize that dating violence can happen to teens as well as to adults.
Take the Test: Warning Signs of Abuse
The excitement of being in a relationship can stop you from seeing the warning signs of abuse. Remember; you don't have to have broken bones or a black eye to be abused. If you check more than two below you may want to get help now before it's too late.
Are you going out with someone who...
- Is jealous and possessive toward you, checks up on you, and belittles you in front of family and friends?
- Won't accept that you are breaking up with him/her?
- Tries to control you, doesn't like you being with friends, makes all the decisions, and doesn't take your opinion seriously?
- Scares you by his/her reactions to things you say or do? Threatens you by using weapons?
- Is violent, has a history of fighting or losing his/her temper, and brags about mistreating others? Destroys or damages your personal property?
- Forces you to have sex, or is aggressive during sex? Pressures you to have unsafe sex? Thinks women or girls are sex objects? Attempts to manipulate you or becomes too serious about the relationship too quickly?
- Uses drugs or alcohol and tries to get you to take them too?
- Has a history of bad relationships, or blames you when he or she mistreats you?
Are you going out with someone who...
- Hits, chokes, punches, kicks, slaps, pulls your hair or physically hurts you?
- Your family and friends have told you they were concerned about your safety?
DID YOU KNOW...
Violence is not a normal part of any relationship.
Abuse is not your fault.
Reach out for help. It is available.
Information about Bullying & Cyber-bullying
Information about Stalking and Cyber Stalking
Information about Teen Texting & Driving
Colorado River Regional Crisis Shelter
24 Hour Hotline 1-888-499-0911
24 Hour Hotline 1-800-799-7233
Love is Respect
24 Hour Hotline chat and hotline
6pm-10pm PST 1-800-TLC-TEEN (1-800-852-8336)